slight rant today about weddings and pre-wedding events.
so one of my best friends is getting married next summer! yay! so excited for her and to be a bridesmaid for her! and so there have been a few emails sent between bridesmaids & the moh who i'm also super good friends with about pre-wedding events and i want to know when it all became so crazy.
-she is getting married next july. i find it crazy to be planning a shower & bachelorette 9 months in advance.
-the moh wanting to do 2 separate bachelorette type things because she realized that her plan was unrealistic after i pointed it out that everything won't fit in one weekend. i can see a weekend if going away somewhere but what happened to a fun afternoon/night out?
-what happened to the bridal shower at someone's house and a low-key event? doing it catered at a restaurant seriously? it isn't a mini-wedding.
-i know the wedding industry has gotten to be extreme but when did it become so crazy and why is everyone expecting so much at these pre-wedding events.
i guess i'm just worried because i can see my friend being mad at me when i can't come to all of the pre-wedding events. i just moved 800 miles away and i can't fly up to the northeast 3 times plus the wedding all within a 2 month span. even if i had a job i don't think i could do it. i'm unemployed, have been underemployed the last 1.5 years and want to be there for my friends but i swear weddings bring out the worst in people. i don't think it helps the moh just got engaged last week and the bride is freaking out about it. i just wish people didn't have to be so crazy about making everything super perfect and like it is on tv. maybe i'm just used to less but i have a feeling the next 10 months until the wedding are going to be interesting...
anyway, just trying to write an email and i needed to vent about it. my roomie is also involved in this and we are both like yeaaa, we can't fly up 3+ times in 2 months with the price of flights (even driving it is 9-10 hours and really not realistic for a weekend + getting off work) i don't see why we can't do the sheower & bachelorette in one weekend. to me it just makes more sense - the people you want for the bachelorette are already there for the shower and for people not local it is so nice to do it in one weekend!
what do you think about showers & bachelorette parties?
6 comments:
Lol, I think people get insane about all this stuff! I don't understand it at all!
It does get a little insane. I've never heard of a shower and bachelorette parties being on the same weekend. I think it's just too much to plan and would be a little too crazy that weekend. Also most showers I've been to have been at resturants. I actually prefer it... because you can sneak out better. lol
It sucks that you can't go to everyting, but if the bride is your real friend, she'll understand.
we had my sister's shower at a catering hall (there was more than 60 people there--too many for somebody's house). two bach parties is crazy--maybe you should encourage them to have a weekend away in charleston :)
you tug at my heartstrings. if i get engaged in the next few months (who knows?), your next summer could get even more crazy :(
It's nuts how out of control showers and bachelorette parties have become. I had my bridesmaids spread all over the country and totally understood that they wouldn't be able to make it to all of the pre-events. They came to what they could, and I was just thrilled that they were standing up next to me at the wedding. Hopefully the bride and all of the other bridesmaids will be realistic and understanding about your situation.
Gah, I was a bridesmaid a year ago and there was a weekend away at the beach, a night out at a baseball game, a bachelorette party, a bridal shower, plus the wedding. Total bridezilla. I was fuming all the time. But it made for good stories! And I skipped the baseball game and the bachelorette - and I only live 45 mins from her! You have plenty of excuses to not attend all these events. Brides need to realize the world doesn't stop for them.
John and I are planning our big "wedding" for March and I couldn't be less interested in the whole process. I keep thinking I have plenty of time, but I should probably start doing some stuff! Oddly, one of my maids of honor is sooooo much more excited about my wedding than I am, and she's driving me nuts with all of her constant emails and texts about wedding stuff!
P.S. Gorgeous pics of Ireland in your last post. Made me miss it so much!
Hey, just found your blog through one of your comments on another blog, and then I saw this post...
I got married two weeks ago and when my friends told me they wanted to plan a hen party I told them it had to be cheap for my friends who are unemployed, and the timing should be right for my friends who live far away. We ended up at a free festival in the city where I live and afterwards we went out for dinner. It was really simple but so much fun! We had an amazing day and dinner and everyone had a good time. It doesn't have to be all complicated and elaborate, as long as you're spending quality time with the people you love.
I hope everything gets sorted out!
- Marjolein
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